If you are a parent, teacher or other person who works with children, I would commend this book to you. By understanding how the brain works, you can survive tough moments and teach children to thrive. The Whole-Brain Child explains both how and why. Finally, I want to share two interesting tidbits from “The Whole Brain Child” approach that contradict standard parenting advice but perfectly align with my parenting instincts: This erudite, tender, and funny book is filled with fresh ideas based on the latest neuroscience research. I urge all parents who want kind, happy, and emotionally healthy kids to read The Whole-Brain Child. This is my new baby gift.” —Mary Pipher, Ph.D., author of Reviving Opheliaand The Shelter of Each Other

This book taught me more than anything I could have read on google when trying to decipher my daughter’s outbursts and outlandish behaviour. The book is so good but it’s easy to read these books and not put the ideas into practice. So I decided to make an infographic to print out and thought I’d share it here with you. Our authors share the story of little Marco, who, while physically unharmed, was very distressed after he and his babysitter were involved in a car accident. The accident resulted in the babysitter being taken to the hospital in an ambulance. At two years of age, Marco's story to his mom was 'Eeah, Woo Woo.' "Eeah" was the name he gave his beloved caregiver, and "woo-woo," the description of the noise the ambulance made. it honors and respects children and reminds parents that many of the "behavioral problems" we see are, in fact, totally normal developmental phases that children simply need additional support and nuturing to manage through. The first strategy is to "engage, don't enrage." Here we have to ask ourselves which side of the brain we want to appeal to. If tension is building, it may help to engage the upstairs brain instead of trying to halt the rage brewing in the downstairs brain. So when you can see that your child is about to lose it, you can ask for more precise words for how they feel, and then maybe ask them to come up with a compromise that works for everybody, or start negotiating.As a parent, you need to help your child to explore the new brain functions as it gets them and guide her through the process of getting used to using these new functions.

An upstairs tantrum occurs when a child essentially decides to throw a fit. . . . A downstairs tantrum is completely different. Here, a child becomes so upset that he’s no longer able to use his upstairs brain.” With respect to the former, parents ought to follow standard advice, ignoring the antics and enforcing pre-established boundaries; when the latter type of fit is in play, however, “a completely different parental response is called for . . . much more nurturing and comforting.” Let the Clouds of Emotion Roll By: Help your child, when he/she is experiencing a negative emotion, to understand that feelings come and go We can "let the clouds of emotion roll by." Just as clouds come and go, so do feelings. This way, children can learn that they're not their feelings. The difference between saying "I am lonely" and "I feel lonely right now," allows them to understand the difference between a temporary state and a permanent trait. Feelings are like the weather. They're real, but they come and go. Are you a frazzled parent, juggling demands, fighting over unfinished homework, and refereeing sibling fights? Or are you constantly comparing yourself unfavorably to the super-parents you know, the ones on the PTA who cook like a dream and never get irritated with their children? Sometimes it feels like we're just trying to survive as parents, when what we really want is for our families to thrive. When it throws a tantrum, it uses the lower brain. To deal with this, first, ask your child what has caused its anger and then, ask your child for a solution.Mesele şu ki evin ilk katı olan alt beyin herkeste var. Bu özellikler doğuştan geliyor. Dolayısıyla da önemli olan yirmili yaşlara kadar gelişmeye devam eden üst beyni inşa edebilmek. Bu yüzden çocuk alt beyinde kısılı kaldığında daha hırçın, daha bencil oluyor. Hedef her zaman üst katı olabildiğince iyi inşa edebilmek olmalı. Mesele sağ ve sol, üst ve alt beynin entegrasyonunu sağlayabilmek. What Siegel has done here is, based upon cutting-edge neuro-science, boiled down the info relevant for parenting into 12 strategies to help you guide greater brain integration in your children, from birth through about 12-years old. This is exactly what happened when I finished reading “ The Whole-Brain Child” by Dr Daniel Siegel and Dr Tina Payne Bryson.

Kitap özetle sağ beyin daha fazla duygulara hitap ederken, sol beynin daha fazla mantık ile ilişkili olduğunu, bununla birlikte bir alt ve üst beyin olduğunu anlatıyor. Bu beyinlerden alt beyin nefes alma, göz kırpma, dövüşme veya kaçma, öfke ve korku gibi primitif duyguları beslerken üst beyin de sağlıklı karar verme, plan yapma, duyguları ve bedeni kontrol altında tutma, kendini anlama, empati kurma, ahlaklı davranma gibi daha sosyal beceriler sağlıyor. However if you've already listened to 2+ of parenting books, then it probably doesn't have that much novel information for you. Still great to reiterate and all, but if you've had a few, then it doesn't add much. It's just overall better than others of its kind out there, but most of the content is same/similar First things first: I'm a dad with a 2 years old child and probably share every moms and dads usual issues and questions. By the way, we split everything that involves our child at home, meaning I do half of ALL.We want to help make the information in this book accessible to as many parents as possible, so we have provided below links to parent discussion guides by chapter as well as links to blog posts (written by Annie McClellan at Tapestry) detailing each of the 12 strategies in the book. Connect and Redirect: Let your child feel that you hear him/her (connect emotionally to show them they are seen) before redirecting (deciding how to react) (translation: listen before you speak!) Our children's experiences from birth help to constantly rewire their brains over the years so that the different areas of the brain can connect more easily and constructively. Name it to tame it: make your child name the feelings it gets when it retells its experiences. What to Do When A Toddler Throws a Tantrum On the one hand, at the end of every chapter, there is a real life problem with the real life actions parent should try to take. That's the good part.